How to Choose the Right Kitten: Gender, Size & Common Myths

I often get two questions from future kitten parents:

1️⃣ “Should I choose a male or a female?”2️⃣ “Will a girl kitten be much smaller than a boy?”

Let’s clear this up — with heart, logic, and a little experience.

💫 Gender isn’t just biology — it’s energy.After working with cats for many years, I’ve noticed a curious pattern: the best family matches happen when the kitten's energy complements the energy already present in the home.

Here’s a simple way to look at it:

• Is your home full of female energy — mom, daughters, maybe even female pets? A male kitten might bring a refreshing balance.

• Is there a lot of male presence — dad, sons, male dogs? A gentle girl kitten may soften and harmonize the space.

You don’t have to count everyone like in a math class — just feel into your home. Often, families are surprised how much smoother things go when they choose the kitten whose energy balances the whole.

This isn't about superstition. It’s about harmony. I’ve seen shy girls blossom thanks to a playful tom. And I’ve seen gentle female kittens calm down entire households of rowdy boys.

🪶 Size Myth: “I want a big cat, so I’ll choose a male.”

I hear this a lot. But let me share what most people don’t know:

– A spayed female can grow just as large and majestic as a male.– Kittens do not automatically grow to their mother’s size. People often ask to “see the mom,” thinking it will predict how big the kitten will be. It won’t.– A cat’s growth can pause during motherhood (pregnancy & nursing), but it resumes later. That’s why retired queen moms often bulk up after going to their forever homes!

I’ve had tiny moms give birth to massive sons and daughters. It’s not the mother’s size that determines the kitten’s growth — it’s the line, the health, and the proper care. All kittens from my lines, male or female, become true Maine Coon lions.

🐾 So what should you base your decision on?Not stereotypes. Not old myths. But:

• Your family’s energy and balance

• Your lifestyle and personality

• The kitten’s temperament — and your connection when you meet

That’s the magic.

And if you’re unsure — I’m here to help. I know my kittens deeply, and I love matching them to the right homes.

Because when the match is right — it’s not just a pet.It’s a soul connection.